5 Leadership Tactics to Stay Sane This Thanksgiving
However, I realize many people have the opposite. They may have a family where dysfunctional is a mild description. I am writing this post for those people. As the holidays approach and families come together, old hurts and ill feelings tend to come to the surface and walking into Thanksgiving celebrations can be like walking toward the guillotine. But, it doesn’t have to be that way.
Opportunities for leadership usually arise in times and places governed by chaos and trouble. What better time to emerge as a leader than at your chaotic family gathering? The issues that arise with your family aren’t that different from the ones at work. The setting is different, but managing different and often difficult personalities isn’t.
So, instead of dreading your family gathering, look at it as an opportunity to hone your leadership skills. To get you started, I’ve provided five leadership strategies you can easily adapt to make your Thanksgiving more enjoyable:
1. Accept people’s imperfections and be the first to see their good qualities.
My mother was the best at finding the good in people. I try hard to emulate her—even though I sometimes struggle with it. When it comes to your family, it may be a struggle for you, too, since you know those people and all their imperfections better than you know anyone else. But no one, no matter how vile they may seem, is all bad. Sometimes you just have to have the patience to look for the good.
This Thanksgiving, don’t focus on how much a certain family member makes you crazy. Instead, use that energy to find one of their good qualities. You may be surprised what you learn when you get past their negative traits.
2. Focus on what you can control.
You cannot control the probing questions, inappropriate words or disapproving looks that are part of family gatherings. It doesn’t matter what you say or do, they’re going to do what they’re going to do. What you can control is your own behavior and how you react to the situation.
Just like at work, you have to focus on controlling the things that will get results and let the rest take care of itself. Is it tempting to call your family out on their bad behavior? Absolutely. Is it going to change their actions? Absolutely not. When you stop letting them get under your skin, you may notice a change in their negative behaviors.
3. Embrace the adversity.
As I was writing my book and looking back over my life, I realized a big factor in my becoming co-CEO of Primerica was how I dealt with adversity. I’m just a small town kid from Salem, Georgia, so statistically the odds of becoming a top level executive weren’t as good for me as they were for some Ivy Leaguer. But, when times got tough, I ran toward adversity and worked my tail off to make something positive out of a negative situation.
You can’t avoid all the challenges that come with your family gatherings. Your enjoyment, just as your success, is going to have more to do with how you react to your situation than the situation itself. Instead of going in with a bad attitude, have an attitude of gratitude and step up to make the situation more positive.
Read on for two more leadership tactics to staying sane this Thanksgiving: http://www.success.com/blog/john-addison-use-these-5-leadership-tactics-to-stay-sane-this-thanksgiving
This post originally appeared on SUCCESS.com.